Virtual mentorship for adoptees — by adoptees.

The Adoptee Mentoring Society (AMS) is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit created by adoptees, for adoptees. We exist to validate, affirm, and center adopted people through compassionate, virtual, research-informed mentorship from those with lived adoptee experience.

1:1 Mentorship - $60

Meet virtually with one of our trained adoptee mentors for 45-minute, 1:1 Zoom sessions. Come with goals in mind or simply show up — your mentor will guide the way. Sessions create space to explore identity, birth family, race, gender, and more, while also leaving room for joy, hobbies, and everyday connection.

Adoptees ages 13 and up!
Watch an info session that we held about becoming a mentor here.
he Adoptive Parent-specific FAQ’s here and/or you can watch an Info Session we held specifically for adoptive parents HERE.
We ask that youth have their mentorship sessions in a private space, without parents present. This isn’t about excluding you—it’s about creating a safe, judgment-free environment where your child can speak openly.
Yes! You can learn more about our scholarship fund here.
Also, thanks to supportive partnerships with Coordinated Care and the State of Oregon, we are currently offering FREE MENTORSHIP for:
- youth ages 13–18 who were adopted from foster care in Washington State.
AND/OR
- any adoptee—of any age—who was born in or currently lives in Oregon.

SCHEDULE A 1:1 SESSION

The Adoptee Lounge

The Adoptee Lounge is a virtual space where adoptees (ages 13+) gather in groups of up to 5 mentees to share, reflect, and grow alongside others who truly get it. Sessions are facilitated by our mentors, creating room for honest conversations about identity, connection, and everything in between.

- Youth Lounges (ages 13-16): $35
- Young Adult Lounges (ages 17-22): $35
- Adult Adoptee Lounges (ages 23 and up): $10
Our Mentors facilitate these sessions. They are trained, are supervised and are paid for their services. Hear directly from an Adoptee Lounge attendee to learn more.
he Adoptive Parent-specific FAQ’s here and/or you can watch an Info Session we held specifically for adoptive parents HERE.
We ask that youth have their mentorship sessions in a private space, without parents present. This isn’t about excluding you—it’s about creating a safe, judgment-free environment where your child can speak openly.
Yes! You can learn more about our scholarship fund here.
Also, thanks to supportive partnerships with Coordinated Care and the State of Oregon, we are currently offering FREE MENTORSHIP for:
- youth ages 13–18 who were adopted from foster care in Washington State.
AND/OR
- any adoptee—of any age—who was born in or currently lives in Oregon.

YOUTH LOUNGE (ages 13-16)

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YOUNG ADULT LOUNGE (ages 17-22)

ADULT LOUNGE (ages 22 and up)

The Mentors

Jenny Nau

Jenny (she/her) is a same race adoptee who lives in Washington State.
Angela Tucker

Angela (she/her) is a transracial adoptee, who lives in Seattle, Washington with her husband Bryan and their cat "Grandma Pearl."
Shelise Gieske

Shelise Gieske is a South Korean, interracial adoptee who lives in Portland, OR.
Ruby Barnett

Ruby Barnett is an adoptee who grew up in North London and now lives in Northern California.